I recently posted on my personal facebook page and asked people to share their biggest regret about their wedding day. It was SO insightful, but it was also extremely heartbreaking. As a wedding photographer, I work hard to make sure that my brides and grooms have the best day possible. I know the countless time that they have put into planning. There are HOURS spent on Pinterest stressing over color palettes, brides maids dresses, and decorations. It was heartbreaking to hear stories like I did on my Facebook post. I am by no means trying to freak you out (not doing a good job at that huh?). I actually believe that the best proactive step to avoiding regret is learning from other peoples mistakes. With that being said, I am going to share the top 4 regrets that I hear from brides over and over again!
Oh, btw, you can check out the comments on my post by clicking the link below if your curiosity is getting the best of you 😃
This seems to be the BIGGEST regret that people have when it comes to their wedding! It was Lara an I’s for sure. When we looked at our budget that seemed like the obvious choice to pass on since we were already hiring an amazing photographer. If I could go back I honestly would have done a less extravagant meal and hired a pro to film our wedding. Video allows you to experience the romance of your wedding day that photos just don’t deliver. (Weird hearing this come from a wedding photographer right?)
Videographers who are experienced might seem pricey, but they are well worth it. Hiring a talented professional is going to ease your mind! I understand that everyone has different budgets.There are all sorts of videographers at different prices points. So how do you pick the right one? The most important thing you can do is to do your research! Find multiple professionals who are in your price range and view their work. Don’t just go off of 1 minute clips. Ask to see a full ceremony. If you are getting married indoors ask to see some indoor footage. Is the audio clear? Is their camera footage shakey? Look for someone who is consistent in the quality of their work!
After you get engaged, you will be flooded with unsolicited advice from people who have gotten married before. Some of it will be good! Some of it would have been better left unsaid. It’s easy to brush off the pushy opinions of a co-worker or friend, but what about a close family member? This situation can be a little more difficult to handle. It can be especially tough when parents are offering opinions that seem more like mandates. Your Mom will most likely have the strongest opinions and you may even get into a few arguments about things that she believes are best, but remember this is YOUR BIG DAY….not hers.
If you want to have a first look but your parents think it goes against tradition….go with what you want and have a first look! Lara and I chose to not have a cake at our wedding because honestly we both just dont care for cake. We had an ice cream machine instead and it was AMAZING! We received pushback about it from her mother, but ultimately we made our choice and are glad we did it! You do you!
I didn’t want to seem cliché and list this first…but honestly this is the biggest regret I hear time and time again from people. I can’t tell you how many times I have heard people mention that they had a family friend or uncle bob take photos at their wedding because it was free or cheap. They thought “Oh, they have a nice camera, as long as they get a few good photos that’s all that matters. It will save us a ton of money in the long run!”. This usually ends terribly for the couple and they have terrible photos from their wedding day!
I realize that everyone has a budget to work with. I would advise you to prioritize a good photographer in that budget! Here are some comments from the post I mentioned earlier in regards to having regrets about their photographer.
-“Not hiring a photographer really got to me. We have some photos, but nothing where I can really look back and enjoy them.”
-“Skimping on a photographer!!!!! 26years later and I still regret this. 😩 Oh well, the day lives in our hearts. And we have a few photos.”
-“Skimping on the photography for sure!! We don’t have any pictures together beside during the ceremony.”
-“That we hired the photographer that we did. He missed a lot of important shots.”
Your wedding day will fly by so quickly! Hiring a photographer that has professional equipment, understands lighting, can direct people, and understands posing is so important. A good photographer is so much more than someone who has camera. Be sure to do your research when when it comes to who you hire, you are trusting this person with some of the most important memories of you life!
I get it, this is a huge moment in your life that you are spending lots of money on. The pressure is high to “wow” people with the venue, decorations, perfect weather, food, alcohol and the best party people have been to all year! With the bar set that high, who wouldn’t have a mild panic attack thinking about all of those things?
More often than thought, the things we worry about don’t end up actually happening. If there are real issues that are presenting themselves, worrying doesn’t actually help solve them at all.
I have been at weddings where nothing has gone wrong and I have witnessed things go terribly wrong at other weddings. The key factor in the day not being ruined is how the bride and groom reacted when something went wrong. You can plan ahead and try to make sure everything is perfect, but at the end of the day you are marrying your best friend! It’s ok if there is a delay in the starting of your ceremony music. The day isn’t ruined if you get a small smudge on your dress. Those rain clouds in the sky might pour down buckets or the might hold off! Guess what, worrying about it isn’t going to make the day any better. The best thing you can do is choose to put a smile on and live in the moment.
February 3, 2020